Sometimes I get so overwhelmed by the things other people create.
Some people use trash to make their home decor.
Some people use technology to make things we've never seen before on TV, the internet, or movies.
Some people use stringed, brass, vocals, drums, and a plethora of other instruments (and sometimes buckets and random objects alike) to reach into feelings and realizations that we didn't even know existed inside of us.
Some people have talent and use it to its full potential, whether its hospitality, math, "fixer" of things, being a physician, being an animal specialists, setting up lights, sitting with someone, cooking, etc. etc. etc.
Recently, something has literally comprised all that I have been through and all that I will go through... all because someone created it.
However, you won't see it like I see it.
Maybe you never will.
But that is the beauty of what was made.
I have held on to this piece because it appeared randomly during the release of my deepest weakness and pain.
I hold on to it because it explains a lot.
I will hold on to it because it will make me remember where I was.
This piece is a song called "The Space Between" by The Dave Matthews Band.
You've probably heard of it...
As cheesy as it sounds, yeah, its a song.
But I am not a musician. If I play an instrument its probably because I'm really good at faking it.
But what this song makes me feel and what the words portray are enough to make the simplest human transcend any form of musical comprehension.
So now I repeat:
You won't see it like I see it.
Maybe you never will.
But that is the beauty of what this song has given me.
I looked up the lyrics and to be honest, some of the words don't have anything to do with the realization it gave me.
But all the other words swirl around into a mixture of understanding. It's so refreshing.
I continued to look into the song and the reasons for why it was written.
Here is what I came up with:
i think the song reminds us that no matter what we do in life there will always be that space that we can never quite fill and it effects us in ways that we can never understand.
- brian, dekalb, IL
This song reminds me of a couple who are waiting and waiting- whom the man is completely in love with a happily married woman and the happily married woman is love with the other man. It reminds me of the lies they would tell to eachother and to anyone else involved just to fight to keep what they have going. It is about two people who would do anything to be together-but won't because they can't make it right.....Still they can't help it... even though they know it is a sin to ever even consider being together... So- finally in the end they just do the wrong thing and choose to be together no matter the consequenses because their love was so strong and right- even if everyone saw see it as wrong.
- Tahnya, Plano, TX
I think its about a gay guy. stuck in the closet ya know?
- sam, swannanoa, NC
This song to me sounds like a conversation between two people. Like Dave is saying something and the next line is someone responding.
- Cheryl, Schenectady, NY
I saw a documentary on The Dave Mathews Band, and he was saying his music is made to inspire people. He did an amazing job. And pretty much the lyrics mean whatever you hear them to be. Whatever personal is going on in your life at that moment will influence the meaning on the song. He is very poetic and loves what he does very much, and it shows.
- Bethany, Hamilton, OH
...... I remember reading about an interview with Dave matthews and he was asked what a certain song was about and he said that to him now it meant something completely different than it does to him today. He said that everyone who hears a song will derive the meaning the need or want out of it, because we are all unique and all are presented with different obstacles and rewards and that is what shapes the meaning of a song. He saiys when he hears a song he wrote ten years ago on the radio or in the car or plays it at a show he sometimes will all the sudden be like wow that means this to me. Because he has changed and his outlook on the world has changed.
- Nicole, Portland, ME
So everyone has an opinion. It is all different.
Some more elaborate than others. But still, it means something either way.
As I reread the lyrics again, some of the words don't connect-
I'm not in love with anyone, but I've been spinning in the madness of a rollercoaster.
I don't need to hold anyone, but I did go off like a devil in a church in a middle of a crowded room, so I need to be held.
I'm refering what I'm writing to many people. People around me will find this song differently than I did, but I pray we don't take this ship down, in our own ways.
I have cried tears but the laughter will make me come back for more, even if tears are there again.
The fickle, fuddled words I've used confuse me in the twisted game I played in my head.
The strange allies I've made and that I've become all have hearts that are warring for much more and yet I've lied to them about what I am to keep safe from the pain.
And so on and so on...
"The Space Between" by DMB
You cannot quit me so quickly
There's no hope in you for me
No corner you could squeeze me
But I got all the time for you, love
The Space Between
The tears we cry
Is the laughter keeps us coming back for more
The Space Between
The wicked lies we tell
And hope to keep safe from the pain
But will I hold you again?
These fickle, fuddled words confuse me
Like 'Will it rain today?'
Waste the hours with talking, talking
These twisted games we're playing
We're strange allies
With warring hearts
What wild-eyed beast you be
The Space Between
The wicked lies we tell
And hope to keep safe from the pain
Will I hold you again?
Will I hold...
Look at us spinning out in
The madness of a roller coaster
You know you went off like a devil
In a church in the middle of a crowded room
All we can do, my love
Is hope we don't take this ship down
The Space Between
Where you're smiling high
Is where you'll find me if I get to go
The Space Between
The bullets in our firefight
Is where I'll be hiding, waiting for you
The rain that falls
Splash in your heart
Ran like sadness down the window into...
The Space Between
Our wicked lies
Is where we hope to keep safe from pain
Take my hand
'Cause we're walking out of here
Oh, right out of here
Love is all we need here
The Space Between
What's wrong and right
Is where you'll find me hiding, waiting for you
The Space Between
Your heart and mine
Is the space we'll fill with time
The Space Between...
I found this in my search for the song's meaning.
It's someone's opinion again, but I couldn't have written it any better:
"In every relationship there comes a time when you recognize that as much as you care about the other person, we are always still alone. There are things that we can only deal with as individuals, and when you care about someone it is very difficult to watch them go through a difficult time, such as a depression. You want to be able to hold them and take their pain away, but it is not possible; all you can do is wait patiently while they go through their own emotional process-- that is when you are painfully aware of the space between."
